As women, we struggle. The word woman has been looked down upon for centuries. We are thought to be the least of importance, strength, intelligence, and social character. Our identities have been stripped through social degrading by means of sexist separation, and yet we sanely exist even the more. So, what is the struggle of a mother? Well, let me introduce you to myself. I’m Chisa Barrett. I am a mother of six beautiful blessings. I’m a writer, motherhood coach, book publisher by day, ghostwriter by night, and the owner of Mommie Mayhem Apparel. I am currently re-enrolled to gain my Bachelor’s degree in Business with a concentration of Entrepreneurship. Life sounds good, right? Huh! Let me give you my story. I’ve been hustling and struggling for a long time. When I first started going to school in 2011, I was healing from a very traumatic c-section with my third child. Life was a mess. I was homeless, afraid, lost in my marriage, and couldn’t figure out for the life of me who I was. My identity had been long gone since child #1. I had no idea who I was or what I was doing as a mother or wife. One thing I did have and fought to hold on to was Jesus.
My journey continued in school. By 2015 I was still a stay at home mom in school full-time and homeschooling. I had written my first two books and landed myself on the Dean's List every semester. Here it is 2020, and my family is still homeless, but praising God nonetheless. I look and talk to so many moms and hear the same thing, "I don't know how I'm going to make it. I can't figure out what to do because everything seems so hard, and I keep hearing no"! My advice is to PUSH!! Push past the tears, the pain, and the no. God is a timely God. He loves us beyond our natural understanding. I could have committed suicide a million times over from losing everything more than twice, but God! I could have said to heck with it! I’ll mimic someone I admire and never PUSH to find my identity in Christ. I could have walked away from my marriage, but God has a plan. But, now I sit in the little Motel my family lives in running businesses, writing and re-enrolled in school with confidence, self-esteem, and FAITH IN GOD.
There are still relatives who assure me to this day that I am not doing right by my kids, relatives who think I am a poor excuse of a wife a have plotted to end my marriage, but God. I know what it feels like to feel alone, even when there is someone there. I don’t know when my time of homelessness will end, but one thing I know is my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Mother, no matter what it is you face in life, know that you have a Heavenly Father who is on your side and that if God is for you, no one, and I mean NO ONE can be against you. For the mother who wants to give up. I want you to PUSH as your very life depends on it because it does and, those children need to see you win. For the mother who can’t find her identity. Here is a secret, hide as much as you can during your free time. Hide in God's word for as long as it takes. I promise you he will show you who you are. To the mother who is depressed, Weeping may endure for a night, but it is a guarantee that joys will come in the morning. To the wife with weak knees, STAND, stand against the words. Stand against the negative frequencies aiming to STOP your marital growth. To all of you who find yours seemingly dragging yourselves to press on, let me say this:
8. And the Lord, He is the One who goes before you. He will be with you; He will not leave nor forsake you; do not fear nor be dismayed.
7. You are my hiding place; You shall preserve me from trouble; You shall surround me with songs of deliverance.
8. I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye.
Sis! You were built to win and, you will no matter what you experience. Winning is in your kingdom DNA. Do your absolute best and let God do the rest.