“Love and forgiveness is not for the faint at heart” - Meher Baba
Knowing this helped me to realize exactly how strong I am. I know to some people when they hear forgiveness they think of reconciling and possibly having to still deal with that person in some form or fashion, but forgiveness does not require any contact with the individual who wronged you. We’ve all heard that forgiveness is not for the other person, but it’s for YOURSELF and this is so true. That’s kind of hard to accept when you’ve been let down more times than you can count, by people you’ve trusted and believed would never let you down. It took me a while to get to this point and when I say that I thank God for growth, I mean it. Forgiveness, by no means is an overnight process but living life holding on to the fact that someone has wronged you does nothing to benefit you either, but instead holds you prisoner to your own anger and unhappiness, while it delays healing. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you must forget what was done to you or that it makes you a weaker person for forgiving, but it actually makes you stronger for being able to care enough about your mental and emotional health to want to LET IT GO.
My pride has been a major issue before when it came to forgiving because I felt like if I forgave that person, it meant that I was excusing what they did and that I was making it ok for them to do it again; I couldn’t have been more wrong. It’s taken a lot of praying and searching from within for me to realize that the only way that I would be able to move forward with my life and truly be happy, would be for me to forgive and set that person free from me. I learned that the hard way, but that’s not to say that I don’t still wrestle with this issue now because I still do. I actually just recently had to forgive myself for going against my better judgement on something that I knew in my heart wasn’t genuine; once again I was let down but I knew that the only person to blame was me. When making a conscious decision to care enough about your peace and happiness, you should never exclude forgiveness. This frees the excess baggage and negativity that holds you back from a happiness that you otherwise had no chance of having by carrying that hurt through every situation and circumstance of your life. So whether it’s my pride, my comfort zone or whatever it was that was holding me back from forgiving, I’ve learned to forgive, let it go and let karma do the rest😉
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