Having a childhood with not so pleasant memories, or things that happened that you’d like to forget is unfortunately the reality for more people than we know. I can say that I was blessed with a childhood that I didn’t have to recover from in my adult years. I didn’t go through any traumatic experiences, or anything big that affected my upbringing in a negative way, and for that I am truly thankful. Of course no one has the perfect life, but I thank God for blessing me with a Mother, Aunt and Grandmother who made sure I had everything I needed and that I didn’t go lacking in any area. This is the very thing that I am trying to provide for my kids.
I think that all families, no matter how traumatic or non traumatic of a family history, have things that they want to make better for their children, grandchildren, and future generations. We want to be sure to break generational curses and try to set the example for a better way of living for each generation to come. Generational curses are known as a “spiritual inheritance” or “spiritual misfortune” passed down from one generation to the next. Sometimes being a single Mother and having to shoulder all of the responsibilities of providing a stable life for your kids, caring for them, and making sure that they have everything that they need in every possible way, certain things can seem to slip through the cracks. This is why having a strong support system and having that “village” to stand in the gap for you when you’re not always able to is so important. In my case, my “village” is my Mom and my Aunt; these are the two people that I trust more than anything to be there for my kids, guide them, and care for them when I’m working. People don’t realize, but generational curses can come in the form of addictions, behaviors, or anything as simple as characteristics. My children’s father has a dishonest spirit, and could be characterized as a habitual liar. I pray for my children daily and I correct them when they tell even the smallest of lies because, if left unnoticed and overlooked, those small lies could very easily turn into larger ones when they’re older. This is something that I don’t want for my kids, and it is definitely something that I am tending to right now. It is up to us as adults, and parents to plant in our children the seeds of self confidence, integrity, leadership, and a strong work ethic now, so that when they’re older we won’t have to look to this cold world to teach them the hard way. Just as our parents wanted better for us, we should also want even better for our kids. Of course we won’t be the perfect parents, but let’s do our job as the ones whom God has trusted these impressionable little souls with, and show them the ropes of trying to make this world a little bit better.